Christmas Cooking and Feasting

Some of us have just celebrated Thanksgiving with feasting, and it's that time of the year once again when all of us will soon come together to enjoy Christmas feasting as well, yet not everyone in the world has this same privilege. While some may complain about the preparation, the cooking and the baking, many like me who knows next to nothing about cooking and baking, often just sit around in expectancy to a feast in celebration of our Lord's birthday.

The Bible mentioned a great deal about feasting, but very little about cooking, except maybe for what is implied of Martha's distraction with her preparation when the Lord visited her home, and of another occasion when she prepared a supper for the Lord (Luke 10:38-42; John 12:2). In the Old Testament, the Bible mentioned many feasts, including the Feast of Unleavened Bread, Feast of the Harvest, Feast of Weeks, Feast of Booths (Tabernacles), and Feast of the Passover. Some of these feasts are still being celebrated today by Jews and by Christians in various parts of the world.

The Feast of Booths, for example, is being observed by some 50,000 Christians, according to an article at the web site of Wikipedia. This Feast, in some places in the world, is even declared as a Christian holiday, much like the Lord's birthday. The Book of Zechariah mentioned about this Feast as part of a prophecy of our Lord's return (Zechariah 14). Biblical feasts, such as this, are usually observed in honor of God to remember what He has done for His people. Likewise, when we celebrate Christmas with feasting, we must also remember the reason for our celebration -- the birth of Christ, born to die for our sins and to set us free from spiritual death.

While it is absolutely true that all of us who participate in the feasting appreciate and are grateful to the ones who prepare the Christmas feast out of love, in suffering and hardship to cook and to bake, we must above all things, always remember the purpose of our celebration. Christmas is indeed an occasion deserving of a great celebration with feasting, cooking, and baking, but we, who are the ones who prepare the food, and the ones who feast on the food, must always do it out of love and appreciation, not only to one another, but also to the Lord, Who is the reason we are celebrating the occasion. Let us all, therefore, when we eat of the food, the turkey and ginger bread, the delights of the stomach and appetites, remember that it is because of Jesus we are cooking and feasting on this joyous occasion.

Teach us, O Lord, as we celebrate Your birthday with joy and feasting, to remember You, the reason for our celebration, to appreciate, love, and cherish the ones who work so hard to prepare the feast, to cook and to bake, in love and charity, so that we may feast with joy and gaiety, with appreciation and without gluttony.

CNY for the Non-Nuclear Family

Before going into the details of what it means for a non-nuclear family to face the Lunar New Year, here are a few things that need to be first explained and defined.

The term 'nuclear family' refers to "a couple and their dependent children, regarded as a basic social unit" as defined by the Oxford Compact Dictionary. A non-nuclear family therfore refers to a couple without dependent children. CNY refers to Chinese (Lunar) New Year, the time of the year whereby many, if not all, Chinese come together as a family to celebrate the new year over fifteen days following the lunar calendar, with visitations to many relatives, and to give away 'ang pows' (red packets) containing money to their unmarried children.

Such a joyous occasion calls for the reunion of the family for a time of feasting, usually on the eve of the CNY or earlier. CNY is therefore a time of celebration especially for the Chinese nuclear family, but to the non-nuclear family, it is not unusual to see them away or out of town, seemingly to avoid the festivities, which often is misunderstood as anti-social. The truth however is however far from what most people think or imagine. To the non-nuclear family, CNY fesitivities are not always a joyous occasion, and there are valid reasons why this is so.

Take the example of the reunion dinner. Suppose the gathering is made up of the parents, four brothers and sisters with their spouses, with three of having grand children. The one without children are often seen as a family unit and the cost of a dinner is usually equally divided between the brothers and sisters with inclusion of the parents portion. This will mean that the one without children will also be paying for the cost of food consumed by the children of the other three, and this amount can often add out to a few hundred dollars.

To the non-nuclear family, ang pows are given away to the children of the other three with no returns, simply because they do not have children to receive any, and this again adds up to another sum of money. All these disadvantages add together however are not all the non-nuclear family has to faced. The real reason why CNY festivities are a turn-off to them is actually related to people, the relatives, and what they say. Constantly, the non-nuclear family is asked by relatives as to why they are without kids and as to when they are going to have kids. Procreation is an expectation in the Chinese tradition, and without kids, a family is seen as incomplete or incompetent. Regardless whether the couple choose not to have kids or whether they are unable to have kids due to whatever reason, it is unacceptable to these relatives, and with piece of news, the mouths often spread to the whole community of relatives with gossipings, which sometimes hurt painfully for the non-nuclear family.

These are the real reasons why non-nuclear family runs away from festivities that require the meeting up with relatives. Therefore, if anyone chooses to point a finger to say a non-nuclear family is an anti-social family, think again, because such things are not for us to say. Be it nuclear or otherwise, let us learn to mind our own business and let the family of two live their lives to the fullest.